Things To Look For In A Man

May 9, 2009

There are a lot of things I want in a man. There are a few things that they say you should require a man, but there are a few more than I personally have. I don’t know that they’re needed. Some I could flex on if it was the right guy. But for example, if he couldn’t tolerate dogs, we’d have an issue. He doesn’t have to love them, though that would be preferable, but just be able to deal with them as I have two that I love like my kids. But here are the basics they say you need.
1. He knows what he wants
He is decisive, powerful, yet I assume not abusive or anything. He goes for what he wants and takes the initiative, which I can see their point on. One big part of this however is the idea that he does the things that are necessary to get what he wants instead of just floating around assuming that everything will come to him without him working for it.
2. He’s sunny
Now, I’m not always positive. So I don’t know how I can expect this. I’m cloudy, I like dark things in a way, I understand things that people suffer through. I have a sunny outlook at times. But if somebody always is sunny, you have to wonder what it is they’re hiding. You have to have normal emotions!
3. He’s open to changing for you
This goes both ways. You also have to be open to changing for him. But if he’s willing to change his ways for you, he’s willing to compromise. You can have a relationship, assuming of course that you are willing to compromise and possibly change yourself for him too. Now I like the idea of a guy that I can at least be okay with enough that I don’t feel any huge things that I need to change, and I don’t like to nit pick. The way I figure it, if you hate things he does and is that much, why exactly are you with him?
4. He’s still mysterious
If you know everything about a guy, it can get boring. And if he knows everything about you, he can get bored. So a little mystery never hurt anyone.
5. He’s responsible with money
I can be responsible with money. But at the same point in time, I know that most of the time I’m just not. So this is a big thing that really makes sense to me at least.

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Colorblind

May 8, 2009

They are always talking about how they can ideally get rid of certain disease and things by manipulating genetics. There is one movie where they manipulated us into a type of super race, which is what many are afraid of when it comes to genetic engineering. Granted genetic engineering at this point is trying to get the genetics you have in the best form, but it is never sure. But I do have to wonder, they can reduce the risk of serious diseases, and for families with prevalent histories of it, it is extremely appealing. But there are also some that won’t kill you, but they’re certainly annoying. One example of that is color blindness. Being colorblind won’t kill you by any means, and there are different types. You can definitely learn to live with it. But if you don’t have to and you can genetically alter your body to not suffer from colorblindness, would it be such a bad thing to do?

DNR

May 7, 2009

I signed a DNR the other day, otherwise known as a do not rescussitate, actually I can’t figure out how to spell it right now, my brain’s a little fried.  But basically, it means that if you are in a major accident or something, they don’t get to go through all the procedures to bring you back to life, especially if you go brain dead. They don’t keep you on life support, they don’t do any of that stuff.  I mean if it’s totally doable, then do.  But if it’s not looking good, then it is what it is.  They say that you should let your family know when you sign one of these things, because otherwise you could be in a whole world of trouble when something happens and then they freak out and try to fight it.  But in a way, as long as I have witnesses and I was fully there, is there really anything they can do?

The Hands of Karma

May 6, 2009

Isn’t it beautiful? Karma always comes back to bite you in the ass. No matter how long it takes, and sometimes it does take time, it always comes back, and it’s actually almost always quite accurate and in a sick and sorted way beautiful. I hate to be the one to say it, but it’s true. Sometimes, it isn’t exactly what you expected. But then again, especially when it’s someone else it’s happening to, you don’t necessarily know about all the things they’ve done. So you can only really reference what they may have done to you and therefore what happens to them. The best thing to do is really not to seek revenge when you’re mad, don’t do anything stupid that would incite the fairness of karma on you basically. But at the same point in time, karma can take a while. So just forget about it. If you wait for it, you’re a bit of a jerk, because you’re basically hoping for something bad to happen to another person. You’re a major jerk actually.
But when it does actually happen, and it always does, I would suggest more the road of feeling a certain empathy or sympathy for them. What they did to you usually sucks yes, and in certain cases you have every right to hate them. But do you really want that same thing to happen to them? I wouldn’t. If they did something to really hurt you, I’m not saying you should run back, be their friend, and say all is forgiven. There is a line between being a descent person and being a stupid person. Frankly, it is unfortunate that there are quite a few people that never connect the dots, and they never change. They just lament about all the bad things that have happened to them, never actually going into why it could have happened.
As for me, I’ve had only a select few bad roommates. Some of them it took some time, but we became friends again. We would never be roommates again for various reasons. But with those friends and sometimes with the others, I have seen them around or heard about them, and I have seen some of the things that have happened to them. One was particularly nasty, but was also my cousin. So there’s no real cutting them off permanently or anything unless it gets unbelievably bad. What happened to her, some of it had to do with the karma from what she did to me and some of it had to do with something else entirely, only some of which I fully understand. Unfortunately, she still hasn’t figured it out to this day. Because of that, I feel more sympathy for her, because she will keep doing these kinds of things to herself. But at the same point in time, I hope that one day it will change, and until then I guess I will continue to be there, because she is my cousin and we had basically been best friends since we were born, 2 weeks apart. But that is part of why I write this blog today, hoping that something will change for her.

When To Let Them Go

May 5, 2009

There are some times when you have to let go of someone you love, because it is the right thing to do. It sounds so cheesy, so cliché, and yet is it what it is and how it has to be at times. Sometimes they are the ones leaving you, and sometimes you have to be the one to leave them. Either way, it’s always hard. It’s hard to know when it’s that time, and when you know, it is difficult to go through with it.
And then sometimes it’s hard to know if you did the right thing or not. You hope you did, it not for yourself, then for them. But sometimes, you become unsure, and unsettled. Sometimes you want to go back, and you find that there is a point in time where you cannot actually turn back.
The hardest is when it is someone you were and still are in love with. Sometimes, it’s because you know somewhere in your heart of hearts that they would be better off without you, and sometimes, it’s because you know that they need someone who can give them something you cannot or will not give them for whatever reason. You know they deserve something better, whether they happen to agree with you or not right now.
And when it’s someone you are in love, you then go through the pain of watching them build a family and really a life with them. That is the worst part, watching them do all the things you should’ve done together with someone else, even when you know it’s the way it has to be. You still wish it was different.
When someone dies you hope that they go to heaven if you’re religious, and whether you are or not, you hope that they are out of any pain that they may have been in, whether you happened to know about it or not. But when that person you were in love with is still there, it’s somewhat harder to stand by. I am by no means saying that you wish they would die or it would be better if they were dead. It’s just harder.

Adoption In China

May 4, 2009

A new law enacted in China is actually allowing people to adopt one more child without incurring the extra taxes or anything else previously involved with having more than one child, or 2 if you are a farmer or something of that nature. This is probably because the orphanages are filling far too fast, and many children, especially girls, have been exported due to international adoptions. This is leading to quite a few boys being without wives and they are saying that it could lead to large gangs of men and so on and so forth, in short a lot of problems. But this new law is surprising some. Families are rushing to their local orphanages to adopt, which has been frowned upon in the past in certain Asian countries, just as illegitimate children and so on were frowned upon in the United States in earlier years. The more surprising part however, parents are rushing not to adopt infants or babies, but to adopt older children. These are teens ready for their first acne treatment in some cases. In other cases, they are 8 or 10 year old children, even 5 year old children in some cases. It could be speculated that they are doing this, because they want servants or slaves. But there are some speculating it is something else entirely. These people may well be interested in having children as slaves and so on. But apparently, that’s not the reason that they are adopting right now. Instead, they are suggesting that many parents gave their children up as infants, because of the one child policy. But now, they are rushing back to claim the children that are actually theirs. Now that is an interesting development. There are some that are saying that whether these children are 4, 5, 8, or ready for their first or last acne treatment, they are often going under the conception that this was always the intention. It was always the intention to have them taken care of when times were hard, but then to eventually come back for them. You have to hope that none of these kids figure out the truth that their parents couldn’t have possibly known that something like this would develop, let alone before they reached adulthood. But for those kids who might be told this kind of thing and believe it, this is certainly interesting.

Who Was Betty Crocker?

April 28, 2009

Who was Betty Crocker? She wasn’t the old housewife you would think of treating her kids’ acne, baking home cooked meals, cleaning house, wearing the fashions of the time for mothers, etc. In fact, Betty Crocker wasn’t even a woman. The Washburn Crosby Company of Minneapolis, now part of General Mills, or at least as of 1928, received thousands of requests each year in the 1910’s and 1920’s for baking advice and answers. So this in mind, they created a name so that it would seem more personable, Betty Crocker. What you wouldn’t necessarily know is that the name actually came from a retired executive of the company, William Crocker. They thought “Betty” was personable, and they had a company secretary sign the letters, who had won a contest among female employees.
In 1924, they officially started a radio debut cooking show. This show featured 13 different actresses across the country and eventually became a national broadcast. They finally circulated a portrait, giving people the idea that Betty Crocker was a real person. They actually took all the women in the company’s Home Service Department, combining their faces into one. This imaginary woman became the second most famous woman, second only to Eleanor Roosevelt. She officially became younger in 1955, and her face changed various times over the years. She became a professional in 1980, and in 1996, she became multicultural. You would think that after all this, the notion that she was a real woman would be quashed all together.
The thing I find most ironic about this whole thing is that the basis for her creation wasn’t even created around a woman. She wasn’t a housewife, a wife, a mother(which now would be the equivalent of a soccer mom)attending to all her kids’ needs like acne and puberty, she wasn’t any of those things, partly because she wasn’t a real person, and partly because the name didn’t even technically come from a woman.

Religion

April 18, 2009

Recently, it’s been like the Catholic church has decided they need some kind of revival. They are losing younger members in droves. So what do they do, they start offering prizes in church, following the example of some Baptist churches who have rock bands, basically trying to appeal to a younger demographic. This isn’t going on so much in Europe or South America as the United States. Some Americans actually don’t like the pope as much, while Europeans have some kind of healthy respect for him. Maybe if the ministers and so on were to wear the best ties according to the populations, they would get more numbers. Small changes are often the most effective. In fact, I wouldn’t put it past them to do that at this point. They’re pretty desperate. I was under the impression that most Catholics just went on holidays anyway. But apparently their numbers there are dwindling as well. On the other hand, the church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints is growing by 1.63% every year, as Jehovah’s witnesses are gaining 2.12% every year. Mormons apparently now make up the 4th largest religion in the United States, a surprising number considering past history. It could be said that their members are allowed to wear the most popular and best ties, bishops and such do the job because they are dedicated, officials are allowed to have families, etc. Or it could be said that many of these churches have widespread and frequent missionaries. The Mormon church has essentially every 19 year old boy going out for 2 years, and who hasn’t been approached by a Jehovah’s witness missionary or heard their knock on your door. Eventually, if you knock on the most doors, you will logically see the greatest results. But then there are some ideas so radical that you will only get those bull goose looney individuals even knocking on every door in America. Or it could be said that people are looking for something new. Many churches in the decline have been around the longest. So people are more familiar with it and don’t think it’s right. So why not turn to something entirely different. There goes logic again.

Bigger Airline Seats

April 16, 2009

No, they aren’t creating bigger seats that would give us all more room to wiggle and shake and all that. United Airlines is enstating a new rule about the passengers. Basically if you spilll over into someone else’s seat, cannot put the armrest down, or if you can’t buckle your seatbelt with an added extension, you have to change plans. Ie, if there is no one seated beside you, you’re fine, you’re good, you’re golden. if someone is and there is a seat next to an empty seat, you will be moved there. But if not, you get to pay for an extra seat on that plane, or if there is just not enough room period, then you have to wait for the next plane. You can refuse this, and then they will refund your money. But they do it for the sake of other users. Can I just say thank you!

Why Are My Dad’s College Buddies Adding Me On Facebook?

April 15, 2009

It’s weird. It’s weird when you go onto your facebook account to find a facebook friend request from your DAD’S BEST FRIEND! Or his college buddy or something! I mean I have a hard enough time accepting people I went to high school with who I hardly knew, don’t remember, etc. I feel bad for them, so I do it. But this is just weird. I know he doesn’t mean anything by it, but honestly it’s weird. It gets even more weird when his best friend and then his wife proceed to add me too. It’s just weird for me to see real adults on facebook, and it freaks me out a little. I mean my dad is so technologically handicapped he couldn’t figure it out if he wanted to. i thought all adults at that age would be at least old enough not to want to be on facebook, even if they figure it out.